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I started to wonder when does one mature when does someone really mature and change? Do we ever or are we just stumbling thru this life from one area to the next. I think back to when I was younger and I don't feel much different than then. After all alot of it I am still doing
probaly not a smart option of someone in there late 30's but if I feel like doing something I do it. Physically I feel ancient but mentally and other ways well I am very young at heart.
I am more friends with my kids than parent even thou I have discipline I know that is a must. I started off in life having no guidence no direction and in turn left me lost for many unnecessary years. It is unfair of me to do the same with my kids. I have stumbled along the way the process of growth often happens that way.
When I found out I was pregnant with my oldest I really had no idea what I was in for. When I thought of things I knew I would manage because I always have but I was clueless how it could be. I had such visions that things would be different how naive I was. When I was in labor a nurse told me that giving birth would be the easiest part of the next 18 years. She will never know how right she was.
I walked in not really knowing not having any game plan and for many years I kept stumbling. I had no clue how to be a mom because I had never had one I had no example to go after. I knew nothing about waking up for midnight feedings, teething or any of the basics. As I stumbled I learned and grew mentally as well as I guess spiritually Four years later when I had my son I was more prepared still stumbling but doing it less.
I had been a mom probaly a good 5 years before it really seemed real. I started to realize I was not in this race all alone and my decisions affected others also. Now not everyone has as many demons as I and sadly some have even bigger ones to conquer, I had many tripping me along the way. After having my son I got into the swing of things more started settling down changing little things. Acquiring furniture staying at one residency longer periods of time when I was young to stay in a place more than a few months was rare. So here I sat and been at places for over a year.
Started feeling urges to maybe settle down and found myself in a very long term relationship and by then I had my last baby. By this time I was a pro at the basics I was able to do late night feedings, diapers, baths all of it without a blink. All of a sudden what once could of been a major diaster could become manageable. I had been using drugs real hard at the time and even then I knew I had to change and move past this place. I had no clue how I was gonna do it just knew it had to be done.
I did it and managed to overcome some major hurdles along the way. My memories weigh me heavy and yet I feel very young. I am 36 yet when I look in the mirror yes I see changes I wonder where that 15 or even 22 year old went. She is still in there just all the wiser. I am coming close up to 40 in a few years pretty soon my kids will be leaving home and then what do I move onto the next plain?
I will enjoy it very much but my problem is now that I have this part down pat I don't want it to end. I am very fortunate I enjoy spending time with my kids very much. I feel sorry for the people who can not or on the other hand the ones who do not appreciate the great gift they have. I once had a social worker complain I spend to much time with my kids what a laff!!! There are people out there having to work so much they miss out on everything or alot of it. There are people out there dumping there kids off with god knows who while they get high or drunk. We have kids out there that don't have either a mom or dad there or worse both. It seems insane for someone to say I spend to much time with them. I have 18 years if I am lucky I have been given a great gift in many ways.
God has been kind and has always provided a way to help us survive. This does not mean I just sit around and expect it to come in I may not have a job in the sense that I get paid or punch in and out. I am on disablity as my kids are some could see this as a bad thing and can be challenging having 3 people under the same roof with bipolar. It is not for me to question it is what I got and I look at the greatness it could bring. Never have I cursed my son's diaablity yes I often wish he could of lived a normal life(he also has other disabilities).
I could focus on the negative and it would of destroyed me I look at the good parts. Yes I am bored and perhaps I may be working in my 70's to live and support myself but on the good part I was able to be there for it all. In school any extra attention I can give my job I believe I was put on this earth to be their mother. When I was younger it was harder to accept being restricted. I fought to stay working for a minute and have had oportunities to work since but over time I have mellowed out.
I like to work but I more felt compelled to work like I was being less than what I should do. I had worked and have done excellent have advanced and yet nothing has given me the satisfaction of being a mother. Strangely thou I still have no clue when did I become a mom? Was it when I became pregnant? Or perhaps was it when I gave birth? Perhaps it is not something you ever become perhaps it is something deep down inside of all of us. Like a treasure map leaving clues along the way and the treasure is the acceptance of the fact that you are a mother or father and have got the greatest gift anyone could ever give you. Oh well that's what I think!


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MySpace GraphicsI have not been on lately and so far behind I really have no time for this but sometimes one must just say what the fuck!!! We got moved only another reminder that I really do not want to do it any time in this decade. My next move has to be into my own house and finish my last real big goal. I actually realize my time track was unrealistic in ways considering this time I believe I can accomplish it all. My book is coming along and as is the house kids are back in school and after I get set up next will be the business. I generally feel overstretched but I am just going at things as they come. I can not believe that it is September already but that is kool also means Halloween is on itsmy decorations already almost up but I will nor get finished this I already know without no doubt. Oh well that is life thou if I have learned anything in life it is to relax and take life as it comes.


MySpace GraphicsSmiling is one of the best things one can do there has been many studies that show laughter is good for one. Why stress over something one can not change or make different what ever will happen will happen and so forth. A.... had court again the great state also had to pick a time when they knew I could not be there possibly. This is the one area that has taught me control most of all. These courts try to knock you off your block. It cracks me up so much when theyhave the nerve to say thet have the families best interest at heart. Trying to save the fam-ily that is so far off base. I know first hand because of what I heard and seen when I was a minor in the system. So I really am amazed when they think they can bullshit me. I hear things come out my oldest mouth that I know they are the words of truth. Words this great state tells her then they come in front of me with lies and untruths dripping from their tongues. Trying to fuck me every step of the way. It amazes me if they can not understand my attitude, I have atteded there little meetings taken time and money out of my pocket. I have had my rights violated jumped thru hoops because of theire bullshit. Still they can not understand my resentment towards them when the spew their lies. I use to get real mad for a while but after awhile I started noticing they got off on me getting upset. They wanted to get me upset claim I was unstable just to have a reason to fuck with me. I have no idea what they get out of messing with me there areso many other kids out there they are suppose to be protecting and yet they mess with me. There are kids out there getting raped beat, starved horrible things. Yet they are wating there time on me and there biggest problem was where I fed my son and I spent too much time with my kids.


MySpace GraphicsThis mystified me how can one spend to much time with one's kids. We have not even 18 years with them and most of that we are not even with them they spend so much time at school or us work. After those years if you even get those they leave home and start there own lifes. There are parents out there ditching there kids with anyone and everyone to be going out and that would be better than spending time with them? Not to mention that one my kids have special needs and the biggest reason being why we were all happy. The kids and me are very close we do all together yet some would say this odd-so what it works for us. I have figured out there game and I will not play. I think that pisses them off that I will not jump thru there hoops no longer. My oldest will be there till she is 18 this I have known a long time there is nothing I can do about this. Evan after she turns 18 I doubt she could ever come home not after her violent past and present. The kids would have to be gone so kowing this whu would should I continue to be punished put thru hoops do this do that. What for for there amusement that is what it boils down to. Even when I show up for there appointments they claim I never was there even if I say I was who would they believe not me? I know that!!!! So now I smile and dont stress why bother smiling is better


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The day (I thought would never get here finally happened today I finally got the keys to my new house so now the hard part comes in the moving. I have been here nearly 2 years and that is so hard to believe. The first night I stayed in this apartment it seemed so big and I really had nothing that I do now.I was still alone because of the foul shit they were doing at hsd so the house seemed even larger and more alone. Now I look around and there is no more room for nothing but maybe more than that it is time to take the next step in life.

So this place I had first seen back in April finally became reality today. Till today I had forgotten what it even looked like and even as I was there I just kept looking around amazed because I know I will have lots of fun with this house and it is so much biger than the other and that sould be my last move till my own house I really am in no hurry for that not now at least.

It just amazes me it had taken them that many months to organize this shit but now I am moving soon that part will be done and I will sit there to haave my first night there and before I know it I might of been there going on two years and god knows how much more life has changed. But for now this chapter in my life is coming to an end and another door will be opening. peace out for tinght

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All of my life I have not had a typical family and for the most part I did not care. Alot of people would ask me if I missed not having a family, esp around the holidays. My answer always seemed so obviuos how to miss something you never had. That was the deal I was born into and have never known no different. Even as a child it was always my sister who was only 4 years older than I but it was her the closest thing to a mother. I will always love my sister for what she did for being only 4 years old and trying to help trying to take care of a new born baby. I will always have much respect for her core.

That does not change the fact that a 4 year old is not any reasonable mother figure. She should not had to do it. The only mom and I use that word loosely not that I can say that name out loud. The mom that I knew since birth was some self centered bitter old drunk. I have in the past tried to remember a time that woman ever extended me love. I don't know what demons posess that woman as they do I really don't have no idea really about either of them. They gave me life I even lived with them for almost 16 years well technically and I don't know shit about them.

I don't know what made them hate me from birth and that is no statement to exact pity it is the truth don't hurt me none. It never really has they always had me in therapy to deal with this or that most problems that most would have and honestly it never really bothered me maybe a little when I was younger and the other relatives were around. Those were hard times thou god I use to dread the family visits. I would feel so awkward and everything I did not have seemed so clear more apperent

It is hard to explain it was not that I even wanted this but you start to question why don't I get what every one else or most people are just given. So that is how it went I did not care what I did not have because that was just how it was. My older sister and me seperated beause of life she was already on her own being four yrsolder than I. My younger sister there was never no real bond there. Our parents always made sure there was conflict there she was the greatest thing since apple pie I never once remember her ever getting in trouble

I never remember her being beat and mistreated she always got the best and part of me was happy she did not have to go thru what we did but she never had the opportunity to see the truth. She was so young and weak minded that ain't on her and for that fact alone I have been luckier in my path than her. She is their puppet she hides in an insane world and will never see anything beyond their small bubble. They have never allowed her to grow get in trouble I mean she is 30 and has never ever got in trouble that I know of she does everything bu the book.

To her she was taught that me and my other sister we were the enemy we were worshipping the devil thru our music and in turn were going to hell. All the problems in the family were not them oh no it was us we were the evil and if it were not for us the world would be a great place. You know it just dawned on me maybe they could not stand us because they seen that we would not accept their dominantly unhealthy way of thinking.

If I was my younger sister I would be dead inside she can think whatever she wants about me and I know that it don't matter. I have known since I was a teen that she and I would never have a friendship I see the fear in her about me and that is sad because I am one of the nicest people you can no I am not being conceited it is just true I will usually be the first to help someone out. Yet she has been so brainwashed that she will not ever be able to see the truth of what we are.

Today I was told she had a baby boy a couple months back like I said she has been lost to me I never had to miss. Never regretted except those few times where you look around and wonder why don't I have what everyone else has
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THIS cracks me up it makes one sound mean in a way but it is not like that I never go out to hurt but it is true I know what I want and go seek to have it. That is more from life experiences if I was a man I wonder if it would be that negative. Thats ok thou I am not ashamed I have lived life to the fullest, I have no regrets.

I wonder how many people can say that about there lifes with the exception of my ex I have no regrets no hard feelings. Over my life I know I have had some raw deals I knew that growing up as a child. I would go to school and see all these happy kids living normal lives. I lived in another world than any other or very few up there at least.

Over the years I have continued to see these kinds of people the ones that really never had it ruff and have no real understanding. I mean like in school they would be pouting because there parents did not buy them the overly expensive dress but the next one. There complaints would be the car they recieved for their 16th bday was the wrong color or kind.

My teen years I had spent in foster care so I was basically on my own I would sit back and chuckle and actually feel sorry for them. I admit now I often look back and wish I had some normal teen memories. I did not and in turn it made me a better person and stronger person. My cousins were the classic example of not in the real world given everyhting on a platter and never ever had to want for anything.

I had more concept of reality of how it really was by age 15 than they do now. As long as I can remember there has only been me and it has just became habit not to count on anyone. These other girls are the type who have to stay with a man no matter what he does become a middle age divorcee and that man was her high school sweet heart. One that can't even balance thier checkbooks or need permission to do this or that.

I may be alone but I am happy I have life exactly to my standards. Sure I have had to roll with the punches I know no matter what I will find a way to make it and come out ahead. I may not of made the deans list for my grades but I am smart I was denied some opportunities when I was younger due to events out of my control.

I could of been one of those females who curled up and felt sorry for myself. I might as well put a bullet in my head then. I could not admit defeat I had no choice it felt like I had to keep going I had no time for tears for heartache. I had to keep going and keep strong. Any regrets thou no how can I regret what was destined to happen who are we to second guess the way we are suppose to be.

What I am finding out all I lost in my youth some of it can never be replaced and that is ok. Although alot can be done now All the knowledge I did not hace the time and opportunity to in school I can now and look at the added bonus now things are so much easier and faster to learn so it can be seen as better this way